The Damm Family

As told by Nadia and Joe Damm

 

Jill’s House is a gift from God. We can’t believe we get to enjoy it multiple weekends a year! We are so grateful that this is something our family can benefit from for years to come. Thank you, Jill’s House!

Before we had our children, we befriended a woman who has since become Alyssa’s volunteer Buddy at Windy City camp. This dear woman would share her experiences as a camp volunteer, and it always amazed us that people like her were willing to give up their weekends in that way! It was by God’s grace that this sweet woman entered our lives almost 16 years ago.

We have had a variety of experiences raising a daughter with Down syndrome. From doctors who didn’t see the value of life and encouraged us to terminate the pregnancy to inconsistent and challenging respite services, at times, it seemed as if the world did not want Alyssa here. At least, that’s how we felt. But we have also encountered many people who genuinely love our daughter, and Jill’s House offers that to our family!

Alyssa’s siblings have enjoyed going to camp for years, and Alyssa began asking for the same experience. We kept hearing about Jill’s House from our friend who volunteers there, and since Alyssa, at nine years old, seemed to be at the right age, we decided she was ready to go.

Though the intake process took a while, it was extremely comforting and helped in building our trust. Indeed, an immense amount of trust was required to place our child in someone else’s care. All the questions we were asked made us feel like they understood our daughter, and nothing excluded her from participating in camp. Through the whole process, I gained a new perspective on our lives and what we work through day to day with Alyssa. Although we felt reluctant about entrusting her to someone else, aware of what goes into caring for our child, every detail about Alyssa was taken into thoughtful consideration by Jill’s House, and they were excited to have her at camp.

Alyssa is adventurous and outgoing. During our Meet and Greet before her camp weekend, she toured the grounds, saw where she would sleep, explored the activity spaces, and enjoyed the outdoor activities. She was excited for camp and raring to go!

When her first Jill’s House weekend arrived, the whole family dropped Alyssa off at camp. Her brother and sister really wanted to see where Alyssa would be staying. We also decided to stay near the camp that weekend. We relaxed, lingered, and just talked. We gave one another time to share. We couldn’t believe how much we all relaxed and bonded. The weekend was amazing! Our older kids kept saying how much they needed it!

Alyssa had a fantastic time at camp, too. While she is outgoing, she still feels her way through every situation. We were so happy to learn that she enjoyed playing with her Buddy and our good friend the whole weekend! She picked up on cues that everyone there was happy to have her, and she felt safe. She was given choices, and she thrived!

At the end of the weekend, we were all so excited to be together again! Alyssa came home wanting to say grace at mealtime and share the devotionals and prayers they said at camp. We all felt refreshed and renewed; it was just the right amount to reset.